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Do very hot men ever feel attracted to an ugly woman? Why?

13.06.2025 11:22

Do very hot men ever feel attracted to an ugly woman? Why?

A “very hot guy” — like 9/10 or 10/10, he could be a model hot — is not dating one of us mid to ugly woman. Respectfully, you should lower your hotness standards, and look for the quality in 8 out of 10 guys. (Too many mid to ugly women think they can date Chris Hemsworth looking guys. Come back to reality).

It’s very unlikely.

It isn’t that we “ugly” women are undatable, women can theoretically date men out of their league. However, in dating, everyone needs a good attentions grabber like appearance, so good hygiene and a good sense of style are priority one for an “ugly” girl. Even with this, you have better chances with moderately handsome men. And things like positivity, strong character, and interesting skills or hobbies are necessary for when you’re getting to know them and want to keep them.

I’m wondering about attachment and transference with the therapist and the idea of escape and fantasy? How much do you think your strong feelings, constant thoughts, desires to be with your therapist are a way to escape from your present life? I wonder if the transference serves another purpose than to show us our wounds and/or past experiences, but is a present coping strategy for managing what we don’t want to face (even if unconsciously) in the present—-current relationships, life circumstances, etc. Can anyone relate to this concept of escape in relation to their therapy relationship? How does this play out for you?